Why Can’t You Read My Mind? Overcoming the 9 Toxic Thought Patterns that Get in the Way of a Loving Relationship

Most people think that poor communication is the reason why so many relationships end, but it’s actually the way we learn to think about our partners and our problems that kills trust, erodes intimacy, and cripples communication. In Why Can’t You Read My Mind?, psychologist Jeffrey Bernstein reveals-for the first time-the nine toxic thought patterns at work in virtually every relationship, and shows couples how these distorted, negative, exaggerated thoughts can poison their love and end their union. With warmth and wisdom, Bernstein offers a simple yet powerful approach for breaking the toxic thinking cycle and helps readers establish new and more positive thinking habits for solving their problems and dealing with the stresses of everyday life. Packed with practical advice and valuable insights, Why Can’t You Read My Mind? makes it possible for couples to remain in or return to loving relationships permanently, and points the way toward finding a truer kind of love with one another for the first time. Perfect for couples wanting to maintain their loving relationship as well as for those working to restore their love, this book provides the missing link, enabling couples to beat the relationship odds and sustain a long-term relationship.

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3 Comments

  1. Very eye-opening!! This book really makes you take a look at how you are contributing to the problems in your relationship, I found myself saying “wow, i do that”….A LOT. For me, and i would guess most people when they are having relationship problems get to a point where they think they have done everything they can to fix it….when really we do just the opposite. I always considered myself extremely giving and open and my partner totally selfish, and reading this book made me realize how selfish i am. I…

  2. This Book Saved My Marriage! Before we found this book, my husband and I were highly discourgaged and didn’t think there were any solutions to repair our miserable relationship. All I can say is that this book finally stopped us from resenting and blaming each other for the crumbling of our marriage. I had seen Dr. Bernstein on the Today Show a while ago when they had a segment on toxic relationships and I remembered the title, Why Can’t You Read My Mind? This book helped us to understand and appreciate each other in ways…

  3. A Real Eye Opener I read several good relationship books (including Relationship Rescue) but this book really does bring to light a problem I never knew I had–toxic thinking. Just since reading the book over the weekend, I’ve already improved my relationship with my husband of nine years. I know this sounds crazy but it’s true. The author really gets you thinking about how you think about your relationship and sometimes it’s not very positive. Though it’s very common sense, it’s just not the kind of thing I…

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