An Emotionally Focused Workbook for Couples: The Two of Us

This workbook is intended for use with couples who want to enhance their emotional connection or overcome their relationship distress. It is recommended for use with couples pursuing Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT). It closely follows the course of treatment and is designed so that clinicians can easily integrate guided reading and reflections into the therapeutic process. The material is presented in a recurring format: Read, Reflect, and Discuss. Readings help couples look at their relationship through an attachment lens, walking them through the step-by-step process of creating a secure relationship bond. 33 Reflections invite readers to engage with the material personally, expanding their own awareness and ability to tune into their partner. Discussion sections suggest relationship-building exercises and a framework for conversations that promote safety, disclosure, and engagement. Case examples, along with informative illustrations, are scattered throughout the book to validate, illustrate, and inspire couples along their journey. Clinicians conversant with EFT can use this workbook to extend the effectiveness of their work with couples by giving them structured tasks to work on between sessions. For clinicians training in EFT, the book can guide them in staying focused on the EFT roadmap and illuminate how important change events unfold.

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  1. Counselor approved My husband and I are both counselors. We have watched for this book to come out, and have been working through it together. We are impressed with the material and how it is positively affecting our marriage and connection. We definitely will finish the book together, and plan to use it with clients. Professionally and personally, we recommend this book. Some couples will need the support of a counselor to work through the material (especially if there are major issues/ hurts or an inability to…

  2. I love this workbook! I love this book! I haven’t fully digested all the material since I haven’t had it long enough but I wanted to write about it becasue it’s such a well thought out workbook that was clearly written by people who know the Emotionally Focused Therapy model inside out. With any homework we give as EFT therapists we must be careful that we are not asking our couples to move beyond either person’s ability to have faith in their safety within the hands of their partner. When they are working with…

  3. great application This workbook is a nice accompaniment to Dr. Sue Johnson’s Hold Me Tight book as it allows couples to identify their cycle and slow down their “dance” in order to change the way they understand and respond eachother. As a therapist, I encourage every couple I work with to do the exercises. It gives a practical approach to Dr Johnson’s exploration of attachment theory in adult relationships

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